tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6992986110747465496.post8765440209855612876..comments2018-04-16T22:24:22.464-07:00Comments on More Injera Please!: Debates. Death. Diversity. Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02806605162148217641noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6992986110747465496.post-84220514741927560042012-08-28T08:22:15.420-07:002012-08-28T08:22:15.420-07:00I can't remember how old I was when I first le...I can't remember how old I was when I first learned about adoption. Probably I read a kids' book about it. Sometime after that my cousin was legally adopted by her stepfather (i think I was 8 then) so I'm sure my parents had to explain that to me. <br /><br />I just want to thank you for writing about all this. I have learned so much about adoption from your musings--you give me much to think about! saranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6992986110747465496.post-12066009029196236482012-08-28T05:21:00.090-07:002012-08-28T05:21:00.090-07:00Thanks Garnett- that is an excellent point, and a ...Thanks Garnett- that is an excellent point, and a family situation that I didn't think of when writing! I think one thing that some "different' families experience is that other parents avoid those teachable moments. I guess we all need to be reminded to open our minds wider, all the time. :) Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806605162148217641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6992986110747465496.post-74799333528005090372012-08-27T17:56:35.651-07:002012-08-27T17:56:35.651-07:00I expect that most non-adoptive parents don't ...I expect that most non-adoptive parents don't teach their children about adoption because it just doesn't come up. When it does, responsible parents will explain the situation to their chidren in a reasonable respectful way. We all understand about teachable moments. These are times when something happens that allows us as parents the opportunity to bring something up that had until that point, been merely theoretical. Adoptive parents, of course, live with adoption all the time, so it is very real to them. As a widow who raised two children after the death of my husband, their father, I did not expect other children to have been "primed" to understand our situation. I did explain to my children that others may be curious about where their father was and (I hope) I gave them the skills to respond appropriately. When my son was little, a friend asked him about his father, my son said, "he died", the friend said "Oh, OK" and that was the end of the conversation.Garnetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18166948083757292936noreply@blogger.com